Questioning Conventional Wisdom
Your baby cries inconsolably for hours and you’re out of ideas. You go online and you find out that these are the symptoms of colicky babies. You ask your friends and they tell you to try gripe water. You go to your pediatrician and she tells you your baby is most likely colic. She tells you that you not to worry about it, it will pass with time and every baby goes through it. With so many people telling you the same thing, it must be correct, right?
Colic, a catch all diagnoses
Did you know that only 10 percent of babies diagnosed as colic is truly colic? Why then are there so many babies diagnosed both casually and professionally as colic? It’s because no one knows why babies cry inconsolably. Your baby is fed, she's rested, and she's being held, what more is there to do? Society has been ignoring the fourth basic need. Parents are obsessed with the baby having enough to eat but ignore the need for the digested food to come out the other end.
Rewiring your baby's brain by ignoring their cries
The way we raise our babies remind me of the story of baby elephants. Baby elephants are tied up to a pole with a rope when they’re very young.
Naturally, the baby elephant will try to break away. But after many futile attempts, they become mentally conditioned to believe that it is impossible and stop struggling. They never again struggle, not even after becoming at six-ton behemoth. They never again question if they can break the now relatively tiny piece of rope that’s holding them. How does this story relate to the way we raise babies? Babies instinctively know to not soil themselves or their parents. Think about how we lose our appetite when we think/smell/look at poop. No one has ever tasted it. No one has ever taught us. So why is everyone disgusted? Because we’ve been hardwired to think that way over millions of years. The 2 weeks - 6 months of inconsolable crying period is when we are unknowingly conditioning our babies to poop and pee on themselves. Once they’ve succumbed to our efforts, they stop crying. Just like how adult elephants stop struggling against the small piece of rope that has been holding them in place since birth.
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